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Good fun. Fun for a group of two or three couples enjoying a glass of wine. In fact, we have a better relationship than most couples now I believe. Not Enabled. Share your thoughts with other customers. Write a customer review. Showing of 4 reviews. Top Reviews Most recent Top Reviews.
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later. Format: Kindle Edition Verified Purchase. This was a pleasant yet minimally valuable read. The positives are that it is well written, the author's tone is likeable, and it is very relatable. The author does a great job of defining the problem in a way any prospective readers can relate to.
The book is full of moments where I felt like I was in the company of a kindred spirit. And I enjoyed all, well, one hundred pages of the book. The down side is there's very little actual advice of value. For example, saying body language is important doesn't help anyone improve their body language. We know it's important, that's why we're seeking advice. It's like the author sets up the stage again and again and then abandons it every time before saying anything meaningful. For example, I'm terrible at small talk and was looking for pointers.
The book says small talk is important and it doesn't matter what you talk about. Great, so what should I talk about? That's the part I suck at. The book didn't tell me how to do it. I know it's important, that's why I'm here So there were two points of value to me, albiet not what I was seeking. One is that when people mimic your body language it means they like you. Interesting, I didn't know that. I wasn't seeking flirting advice, but I like that one because I've seen it.
The other I already forgot This was written by someone who gets the problem but doesn't have any real answers.
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I enjoyed it but didn't take much from it. I loved the approach this author took to shyness and how to become comfortable with talking to people. Often authors confuse introversion and shyness and by extension tell introverts that their entire personality is a problem that has to be fixed. I've suffered from difficulties in talking to people for years and I haven't had any success with any of the books or programs I've tried before. This book was completely different and is a fantastic resource because of that. It is written in a very personal style, while at the same time showing the in depth research the author did.
A lot of work clearly went into this book and the author freely shares parts of her own struggle to engage the reader early on. I loved the structure of the book, especially the journaling cues, little hints that make you think about a particular subject. The author does challenge you and make you look at yourself. The section where she made you think about how good a listener you really are was an eye opener to me. This book isn't a quick fix, it's a proper plan for long term, sustainable self improvement. It can and will make a real difference to your life but you have to be realistic, self critical and be willing to put in the work.
If you are looking for a book with hard-fast rules to follow, look elsewhere. As the author states, there are no stead-fast rules that apply to everyone in every situation. The advice is common sence and common place but reading them and writing down the "cues" brought it to the forefront to be recognized and dealt with.
Reading this book isn't going to change you or me into an extrovert overnight, though that would be great! It will, however, provide tools and insight needed for positive change. Format: Paperback. I was a skeptic, but I've always had trouble dealing with people. Shyness would make social interactions virtually impossible!
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I was hooked. This writer was describing my very issues and even outlined a lot of topics like - small talk, responding to difficult questions and the ins and outs of self-confidence. It was a very helpful read that I think you'll enjoy too. See all 4 reviews. Amazon Giveaway allows you to run promotional giveaways in order to create buzz, reward your audience, and attract new followers and customers.
Learn more about Amazon Giveaway. Set up a giveaway. Customers who bought this item also bought. Remember, someone you know, respect, and interact with every day is an introvert, and you are probably driving this person nuts. It pays to learn the warning signs. What is introversion? In its modern sense, the concept goes back to the s and the psychologist Carl Jung.
Today it is a mainstay of personality tests, including the widely used Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Introverts are not necessarily shy. Shy people are anxious or frightened or self-excoriating in social settings; introverts generally are not. Introverts are also not misanthropic, though some of us do go along with Sartre as far as to say "Hell is other people at breakfast. Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone.
They often seem bored by themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially "on," we introverts need to turn off and recharge. My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn't antisocial. It isn't a sign of depression.
It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: "I'm okay, you're okay—in small doses. How many people are introverts? I performed exhaustive research on this question, in the form of a quick Google search. The answer: About 25 percent. Or: Just under half. Or—my favorite—"a minority in the regular population but a majority in the gifted population. Are introverts misunderstood? That, it appears, is our lot in life.
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Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. They are also the source of the quotation in the previous paragraph. Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways.
Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to explain the matter to extroverts, I have never sensed that any of them really understood.
They listen for a moment and then go back to barking and yipping. Are introverts oppressed? I would have to say so. For one thing, extroverts are overrepresented in politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Look at Bill Clinton. They seem to come fully to life only around other people.
To think of the few introverts who did rise to the top in politics—Calvin Coolidge, Richard Nixon—is merely to drive home the point. With the possible exception of Ronald Reagan, whose fabled aloofness and privateness were probably signs of a deep introverted streak many actors, I've read, are introverts, and many introverts, when socializing, feel like actors , introverts are not considered "naturals" in politics. Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place.