Justin Lee Collins: Trial highlights 'invisible' abuse
So, when you come back after being away, you must always be prepared for what you will walk into. However, the thing is, no matter how hard you try to prepare, you are never fully prepared; a bomb can go off in a matter of minutes. They keep exploding in different areas for hours, but it feels like an eternity. In the middle of thrown dishes.
In the middle of thrown punches. In the middle of the yelling. And the war does end… for the night. But you cannot sleep until you know everyone else has gone to bed. You must stay awake to make sure everyone else stays asleep.
To make sure no other bomb goes off in the night. So, imagine doing this for years, but then you manage to get out of the battlefield. Slowly, you gain some distance between the people. Time goes by, and your adrenaline is wearing off. And you realize you never noticed it before because you were so busy trying to keep yourself and those around you alive. You bandage your wounds yourself.
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You hide them. You try killing the pain, maybe with pills or a couple of glasses of alcohol. And this works for a little while. You try not to look at the injuries.
Victims suddenly began to access resources in unprecedented numbers. Calls to domestic-violence hotlines, shelters, and police skyrocketed after the trial. Domestic violence edged its way into the national conversation. After all, women of color experienced private violence at the same or even higher levels as white women. That part of the post-Simpson national conversation is slowly being addressed today in Native American, immigrant, and underprivileged communities on a larger scale than ever before, thanks in part to the second major event that changed how America treats domestic violence: the Violence Against Women Act.
VAWA put intimate partner violence before lawmakers who had, until then, seen it as a private family matter, a problem for women rather than the criminal-justice system. A jury acquitted O. Finally, for the first time ever, cities and towns all across the country could get federal funding to address domestic violence in their communities. These funds allowed for targeted trainings of first responders, the creation of advocacy positions, shelters, transitional housing, batterer-intervention classes, and legal training; VAWA funds meant victims no longer had to pay for their own rape kits, and if an abused partner was evicted because of events related to her abuse, she could now receive compensation and assistance; victims with disabilities could find support, as could those in need of legal aid.
These and many other systems and services that address domestic violence today are a direct result of the passage of VAWA. My objective is to give the woman every opportunity under the law to seek redress, not only criminally but civilly. VAWA requires reauthorization every five years. After heated debates in both the House and Senate, the reauthorization finally passed.
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The next reauthorization is up for renewal as I write this. Advocates all across the country that I spoke with feel keenly the tenuousness of their positions and their funding in a political climate with a commander in chief who displays open hostility and sexism toward women , and who has himself been accused of groping and assault by more than a dozen women , as well as sexual assault by his first wife. Trump kept his staff secretary, a m an accused of abuse by two ex-wives , in the White House, until media and outside pressure—and not a moral imperative—forced Rob Porter out. I once asked Lynn Rosenthal, the first White House liaison to the Office of Violence Against Women during the Obama administration, a question: If she could do whatever she wanted with whatever money she needed, how would she solve domestic violence?
She said she would take a community, study what worked, and then invest everywhere. He sexually abused all his daughters including me.
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I think my mother knew but did nothing about it. I left my husband who also abused me physically and slept rough for years. With homelessness in the UK now on the rise, this connection gives further cause for concern about the impact of abuse on women. But with the connection with homelessness still not widely recognised, domestic abuse is still a largely hidden problem to which the criminal justice system takes a mainly reactive approach, when what is needed is an evidence-based, problem-solving and preventive one.
Solutions need to start much earlier and include targeted interventions.
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For example, education during childhood and early adulthood could help to break down taboos, and to challenge the normalisation of domestic abuse — both in terms of its nature and prevalence — educating new generations of young people about the nature of healthy relationships, mutual respect and the links between violent homes, unstable relationships and ensuing health problems as well as emphasising that domestic abuse is a crime and not a part of ordinary family life.
This approach has been successfully adopted in relation to homelessness by Tamworth borough council housing department with their Homelessness Education Programme. A similar approach could be taken to domestic abuse education, helping to eliminate some of the myths and taboos which currently surround it as well as the propensity for victim blaming — holding the victim wholly or partially responsible for what has happened to them — within domestic situations, wider society and in the courts.
Minimising perpetrator accountability in this way and the use of victim-blaming terms highlights the need to educate not just the young, but criminal justice staff and wider society about the importance of domestic abuse and the language used to describe it.